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It isn’t your Parade!

Update 2017-07-03: The original article has been removed, but as nothing is truly deleted on the web you can find a print screen here.

Earlier today I stumbled upon this comment where the author don’t want to see kink in her pride parade. Well, I got news for you honey, or it isn’t news, it’s a short history lesson.

The gay leather subculture have existed at least from the fifties, with gay motorcycle clubs or just leather clubs. SLM Oslo (then SLM Norway) is the oldest gay club in Norway, it started in 1976. First they may just have been to there to celebrate masculinity, but there has always been some elements of BDSM and kink. Anyway, over the years the community have grown and embraced different types of kink, for instance rubber, neoprene and puppy play. So kink has been in the LGBTQ* community from the start.

I find it narrow minded to deny a straight cisgender person who is into kink, the right to show their support to their brothers and sisters by joining us in the parade. Actually I know of several straight cis-men who have no problem playing with other men, so the premise for the article falls away.

It is interesting to see how this author in other posts tries to remove stereotypical stigmas, but walks right into one here. Kink and BDSM does not require use of sexual organs, they do not even need to be accessible. It does not even have to be sexual.  For instance the Japanese art of bondage, Shibari.

Another point that comes up in the article is that it is not appropriate to minors to see people with kinks in the parade. Let me ask, is it more appropriate to see men with perfect bodies dancing around with less clothing than I have in one of my hankies? Why should they be able to show their body as an object of sexual admiration, and i don’t?

I’m into leather, the first time I had leather jeans at work I got comments. I have stopped counting how many times I have been called Nazi when I’m in full leather on the street. Leather is not directly sexual for me, I have even baked cakes dressed in leather.

The parade is not yours alone, it is for everyone in the LGBTQ* community and those who support us! So please, do not try to limit the expressions of your brothers, sisters and fellow human beings, there is enough of those who want to do that already.

The Boots

One lonely boot hanging in-front of the building and a small sign high upon the wall is the only sign of Antwerp’s biggest and hottest fetish club.

This fetish venue is in the northern part of Antwerp city centre, in a quiet street. They even have a sign on the way out informing visitors that this is a residential area, and to keep the noise to a minimum outside.

As the Boots is a members-only club, you have go sign up for a membership to be able to enter. But you can sign up for a weekend membership, if you are visiting for a short period, like for the Leather Pride Belgium. And you can do it at the door. You will get a card that says that you are a member, to use the next time you enter. You do not need the card when you are inside the club.

When entering the club, you get a drinking card, where your coat hanger number is noted (if you use one). This is also used when you order something at one of the bars, and you pay when you leave.

The club is using the whole building. Starting at the bottom, which might be one level below street level. Here you can find some play areas, with benches, slings, gynaecology chair, as well as a small bar, with a sling and benches. The level above is mostly used as a hallway, but it also contains an extra cloakroom. The next level is where you enter the club, with the reception, cloakroom and toilets/changing area. You will walk up one flight of stairs from street level to get to this level.

Above the reception, you will find the main bar, with a smokers lounge and a large number of boots hanging in the ceiling. Further up it is a cruising floor, with a labyrinth, tub, slings and benches. And at the top level, there is a small bar among seating and play areas.

The area above the main bar might be closed off if it is a slow night. Be aware of the black light they are using, some might find that it makes it difficult to see when the eyes are directly exposed. Not dangerous, unless you walk into a wall.

We were visiting during the leather and fetish pride, when the city was full of hot and horny men. And probably most of them visited the Boots at some point, judging by the sexy atmosphere that was felt throughout the building.

If you take a taxi back to your hotel, make sure they start the taximeter. I got ripped off. One should think that such things would not happen in Belgium, but I was wrong.

Website: the-boots.com

MrB in Amsterdam

This is store is probably my favourite store. They have a good selection, the staff is helpful, and the atmosphere is relaxed and sexy. Most Mr. B. stores have somewhat the same articles and the same design. The staff in Amsterdam makes the big difference. It is difficult to point out exactly what they do in Amsterdam compared to for instance Berlin, maybe a more relaxed attention to the customer. The balance between getting personal space without being left alone is just right for me.

Another nice feature, if you can call it a feature, is that their workshop is also located in Amsterdam. So, when they didn’t have the leather pants I wanted in my size, it took just a couple of hours to get a pair from the workshop. Just enough time to relax and grab some pancakes with cookie filling, from one of the Creperies in the street.

The products they sell are mostly of their own brand, but they also have some fetish articles from other brands. There is something for every taste, also rubber, neoprene and sportswear. I myself love the leather items with stitching on the sides, like the belts and ties. It is a nice detail. When I think about it I have a pair of boots from this store as well. They are the only pair of high boots I have tried that fit strait of the shelf. It should be said that this is not a cheap store, but the prices are reasonable when compared to other stores with the same quality and service.

If you are going to Amsterdam, this store is definitely worth a visit. Remember that if you want tax return (if you are from outside the EU, like Norway), you need to bring your passport.

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Website: misterb.com

Leather Pride Belgium

A big fetish event in Belgium’s largest city, Antwerp. The main events are located indoors in a big, old storage building at the docks. It is called “Darklands” during the pride. Inside there was this year three parts, a marketplace, a party area and a cruising area. Some parties and meetups was at other bars in the vicinity, like The Boots and Down Town.

The pride started on Thursday and ended on Sunday. The Darklands was open from Friday about five in the afternoon until Sunday evening.

In the marketplace, all the big fetish stores were represented, Mr. B, Boxer, Rob, Underground and Regulation, as well as different brands of toys, makers of slings and organisations. At some stands you could participate in competitions or try gear. For instance, a vacuum bed.

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My boyfriend tried a vacuum bed in the marked area. I have to admit I got flash backs to Star Wars and The empire strikes back.

The marked area of Darklands was open till about eight in the evening. A couple of hours later the main party of the night started. This year it was Fusion on Friday, Rage on Saturday and Alphatribe on Sunday. I did not notice the big difference between the parties, but what more than good music, sexy men, and a but it was fun. On Sunday, the party was a bit smaller, but that was expected since quite a few people had already left.

At the big stage in the party area they also had the Mr. Leather Belgium and the Mr. Puppy Europe competition. The X-Awards was held at the main stage on Sunday, giving out ten different awards. I can’t find an official list of winners online, but BLUF won the award for the “Association of the year” and Thorsten Buhl won the “Man of the year”.

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BLUF won the “Association of the year”, received by Nigel Whitfield, it was given by Thorsten Buhl who later was awarded “Man of the year”.

It was fun to meet new and old friends. And if you stay until Monday, I would recommend to go the Boots on Sunday evening. We had a blast in Antwerp, and will be back next year.

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Leather events in 2017

A new year is almost here, and there is a lot happening throughout the coming year. I have gathered a list here of the events that came to mind. It is at the moment just events in Europe.

If you know of an event I should have listed let me know and I will update the list. (Last updated 2017-03-06)

January

20: Mr. Leather UK, London, UK

27-29: Leatherpride Dublin, Dublin, IE

February

15-20: Leatherpride Belgium, Antwerp, BE

March

03-05: Mr. Leather Hamburg, Hamburg, DE

April

12-18: Easter Fetish Week Berlin, Berlin , DE

30: Mr. Leather Italy, Padova, IT

May

11-14: Paris Fetish, Paris, FR

June

01-05: Cologne Fetish Pride, Cologne, DE

23-02 (July): WorldPride, Madrid, ES

July

09-16: Fetish Week London, London, UK

15-16: Lesbisch-schwules Stadtfest, Berlin, DE

22: CSD Berlin, Berlin, DE

August

10-13: Leatherparty, Hamburg, DE

September

06-10: Folsom Europe, Berlin, DE

22-24: UK Leather Pride, Bristol, UK

October

06-08: UK Leather Pride, Bristol, UK (moved til september)

06-08: Manchester Leather Weekend, Manchester, UK

20-21: Baltic Battle XL, Stockholm, SE

November

03-05: Mr. Leather Spain, Benidorm, ES

December

Amsterdam Leather Pride here we come!

I’ve been really busy the last few weeks, starting Leather Social Oslo and just life as a whole. Leather Social Oslo was a success, and we have already set a date for the next one, but more on that in another post.

Tomorrow morning we are leaving for Amsterdam Leather Pride. Ready for a weekend with party, fun and socialising. I might even do some shopping, a pair of high boots wouldn’t be amiss. But that might become a Herculean task.

I’m also going to one or two of the workshops on Friday, but it was a bit hard to find and understand the ticket system. On the main site I found the tickets to the Invasion party, but not to the workshops, those were on the Amsterdam Kink Academy website. But I’m still looking for a package with two workshops and Invasion Night Pass. I’ll just have to ask someone when we get there.

It is a bit annoying that the BLUF meeting is at the same time as the Mr Leather Amsterdam competition. Now I have to choose. I’m not sure which of those I’m going to attend, it is likely to be the Mr. Leather competition.

If you are in town, drop me a line if you would like to grab a beer or something. Anyway, looking forward to the weekend, I might be dropping a post or two if I get the time.

Starting Leather Social Oslo

The leather scene in Oslo is quite small, but none the less I know of at least nine or ten leather guys in Oslo, and there are more. At the moment we have one gay leather/fetish bar in Oslo (SLM), but there are few guys in leather. Actually it seems like the dress code becomes looser every year. As you probably know it requires a couple of guys in leather to not feel overdressed, so then the work to “recruit” more started.

A friend of mine has invited to a Leather meetup before going to SLM, the interest was good, but few guys came. So we discussed how to get all Oslo’s Leathermen together, and thought of Leather Social in Berlin and London. In the last few months the idea of starting Leather Social Oslo has been brewing.

It has been lots of discussions over a pint of beer at SLM Oslo on how to do this. But now it is about to take shape into something definite. A simple social happening, without any pressure. Visit leather.social to read more about Leather Social Oslo and the event we will have in October.

Valhall @SLM Oslo

Tonight is the biggest party of the year. No, it is not Eurovision Song Contest, but Valhall at SLM Oslo. This is the closest thing to leather/fetish pride you come in here in town. We will also celebrate the club’s 40 years anniversary, quite impressive isn’t it?

The doors opens at 23:00, and the DJ for tonight is DJ Skorm Volt. Remember to sign up to be able to enter. Read more at SLM Oslo’s website.

Different harness types

In my opinion a nice harness is one of the hottest thing a guy can wear. It has to be quite solid so I can give it a good pull without ruining it. Last weekend I got a question about different harness types, and I thought it was about time I finished this blog post.

There are several basic harness types, and if you are looking for your first harness there are a lot to choose from. As with everything else the same harness types might be known by different names. Below I have listed the most usual types with drawings, they might vary a bit in finish or minor details. And some of those details makes out the difference in the name.

I will not go into the material of the harness or if there are buckles and where they might be placed in this post. If you know of a harness you think I should have included in this list, let me know in the comment section.


H-Harness

Bulldog/Crossbow/H-Harness

This kind of harness is quite popular. You can get it with and without the ring in the middle in front. It is often known as a bulldog harness if it has the ring or crossbow harness if it doesn’t.

With the ring in the front you can add an extra strap with a cock ring in the other end, some call it cockstrap.

In the back it is often the same as in front. But I have seen it with an X on the back – the strap over the left shoulder returns under the right and the one over the right returns under the left.

Back


4-Strap Harness

Top/4-Strap Harness

As one of the names describes so perfectly, it has 4 straps. Such a harness is also known as a top harness. Connected to one ring in front and one in the back. Often the ring on the back is placed a bit higher than the one in front. It is an basic design often used in other harnesses.

Back
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Y-Harness

English/Y-Harness

The Y-harness is almost the H-harness on its side. It can have a similar fastening in the back as it has in front, but it can also be one ring with all four straps fastened, just as the 4-strap harness. You can find it labelled as an English harness

As the H-harness, you can add a cock ring strap to this harness. Be sure to check the length of that one before you buy.

Back

 


Sling/Shoulder Harness

Sling/Shoulder Harness

Shoulder harness is minimal in front, it has just a strap over each shoulder. In the back it can be like an H-harness or all four can be connected to one ring in the centre like the 4-strap harness.

Back


Gladiator Harness

Gladiator Harness

the gladiator harness is almost a half H-harness. And it is the same in the back as in front. I have seen it called “Sea Dog harness”, but then it had a special fastening mechanism in front.

Back
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The upper body drawing are based on one I found on the image search on Google, I tried to find the original, but no success. If anyone know let me know.

Please! Do not use perfume!

You have probably experienced it several times. A guy with so much perfume that you can smell him meters away.

When in gear, especially in leather, one wants to be as masculine as possible. If you believe the commercials and think that you need some perfume to be masculine, PLEASE JUST DON’T. There is nothing that ruins the mood more than a perfume soaked ‘leather‘ guy. I use inverted commas as the subtle smell of leather is some of the point of a Leatherman. If you don’t like it, a leather club, bar or party may not be the place for you.

You might use an antiperspirant, but let it be one with a discrete smell. Keep in mind some guys like to sniff or lick your armpits, and believe me it is not the smell of ocean spray they are after.

Let leather smell like leather, a man smell like a man, and leave the perfume at home!