I’m on different gay community websites and apps. Sometimes when non-fetish guys contact me they ask about what I’m into. Even though I have a list on my profile. When I give the them the short version, they answer me something that amounts to “Oh, I’m not into that, bye”.
When you ask a fetish guy what he likes you would probably get a list with lots of dirty action. It seems like they think that if we hook up I will start at the top of the list and work myself downwards through every little kink. And he is required follow. This misconception is extremely irritating, especially when the guy is really hot. If I agree to meet a guy for some fun we would do something both would enjoy. It’s not a problem if that is plain vanilla, as long as we both know what to expect.
I do realise that none of those guys I’m ranting about will read this, I just had to let out some steam.
So yea, I’m a fetish guy, but no fanatic.